Saturday, October 23, 2010
It hits home, very hard (Part 2)
I usually write an article, I take a break for two days and then write another article. Since that last one I wrote on Friday, I could not close my eyes the whole Shabbos! Every time I closed my eyes, I saw this picture in my head and jumped up a mile. If you think, I am joking, think again. I promise you that I did not sleep 15 minutes at one time this whole Shabbos! I tried to forget about it, but it did not work! I tried to sit by my table with my grand children and sing the Shabbos songs, I tried to play with them, I tried to do everything BUT to think about this boy, but I failed!
Every time I looked at my two grandchildren by the Shabbos table, my mind wandered to the picture of this 16-year-old boy from
. Every time I closed my eyes trying to fall asleep, my mind wandered to the picture of this 16-year-old boy from Canada . Every time I looked into the siddur or chumish in shul, my mind wandered to the picture of this 16-year-old boy from Canada . Every conversation I tried having with my friends in shul, somehow ended up discussing this 16-year-old boy from Canada . Canada
At 3 am on Friday night as I was tossing and turning, I got out of bed and went outside on the porch to cool off and try to calm down. I was sure I was going to see 300 other people on the porches standing there the same way I did, crying and painfully thinking about this pure little shefeleh Berish . Of course it was quiet out there it was just me and the black sky and some chirping of the birds. I sat there for 30 minutes with tears flowing down my cheek for this innocent victim, for the pain he went through, for the pain he is in now as we speak, and of course, for the painful journey that awaits his life ahead.
Ladies and Gentleman. Let us be frank here and let us talk to each other. Why do you think I am writing all this? Why do you think I am busy with this blog 24-7? What do I gain out of all this conversations and blogs? Money? No I don’t make a penny out of this, it only costs me. Fame? No way, I am under anonymous and unidentified name, and am worried everyday, that I should not be discovered “for now”. So what is it? Why am I putting my life out there for this blog?
I will tell you why! Because I know the pain that, a victim endures. I know the pain that is there for eternity! I know the feelings you have when you feel helpless and powerless. I know the feeling of being violated feels like! I know the suicidal thoughts! I know the angry thoughts! I know how crying yourself to sleep every night feels like! I know it all. And most of all, I KNOW THAT WE CAN STOP THIS!
I beg you with everything I got in my heart and soul! Take it upon yourself to look out for your kids. Take it upon yourself to protect your kids! Take it upon yourself to make an effort! I know friends of mine that go on business trips for 10 days overseas, hoping that something will develop. Is your kid not worth a 15-minute trip to his school? Is your kid not worth a little effort on your part to see if everything is ok? Is your kid not worth that his father should stop saying “Nuchem just talks out of his stomach” and see what Nuchem is really talking about? Is that picture of this 16-year-old boy not a good enough Wake-up-call for you to jump and see what the hell is going on in this community? The fact that there are over a dozen heimishe people sitting in jail for child molestation, not strong enough for you to say I will fight for my kid? WHAT WILL IT TAKE? What else do you need to light a fire under your skin to push you into action?
You are doing it for yourself! Not for anyone else! Ask the father of Lebowitses victims, of Mondrowitses victims, Reichmans victims, Greenfeld victims, and Brauners victims. Ask them what hell they are suffering every single day? Ask them if they knew then what they know now if they would still be quiet?
The Torah places tremendous importance on "tinokot shel beit rabban" The talmud teaches, "The world only exists because of the learning of tinokot shel beit rabban," and it also states: "one does not cancel the study sessions of tinokot shel beit rabban even for the building of the Bais hamikdash” (Shabbat 119b). However, fathers and mothers, I ask you? What value does "tinokot shel beit rabban” have if they are being molested and raped? What can these little kinderlach accomplish under these terrible circumstances? Who will protect them if not their own parents?
I will end this article with a prayer to hashem, that he should put in our heart a special big dose of strength and health that we should be able to fight this cancerous disease. He should give the right brains in to every parents that they should open their eyes to this great problem and have the strength to fight it. And most of all he should keep an eye out for our little treasures, our little jewels, our tinokot shel beit rabban which the whole world only stands on their behalf.
G-d is my only witness that I have no side agenda with this blog except to see an end to child rape and molestation. I want to see a clean community for my children, grand children and future generations. In addition, I believe that YOU should have the same agenda for your family, and there should be NOTHING holding you back from fighting this sick disease and the terrible people that are the abusers.
I ask every mother to discuss it with their husbands and force them to take action and help us clean the streets, the community and give our kids a better chance of growing up normal and continuing a family free of pain and sorrow.